The most important thing to know about your perfectionism is that you don’t have to let go of it completely. Instead, you only need to minimize the toxic parts—those aspects that do more harm than good. I hope you’re already feeling a sense of relief because I know how resistant you might be to the […]

Success and failure often seem black and white, don’t they? I’ve felt this way too. But the truth is, reaching our goals involves experimenting and embracing failures as part of the journey. As a schema therapist and coach, I see this challenge through the lens of schemas and coping styles. Think of a schema as […]

I bet you have had this experience or similar…. You are in a meeting – you have to make a contribution in some way – given an opinion, share an update, present some work. You do it, just like you do every other time. But it isn’t comfortable, you feel anxious, you imagine how you […]

No Amount of Wine, Pilates, or Dinner with Friends Is Going to Help You Feel Less Burnt Out… Unless You Also Address This Last year I was given a gift for Mothers Day by my partner and kids – a 90 min massage complete with hot rocks, aromatherapy and a foot massage. Sounds like heaven […]